Short biography of Elliot MacDavis
by David Barth
written February 2010.
This is a short biography of Elliot MacDavis. A pseudonym is used to protect his identity.
I met Elliot MacDavis when he came to work for the company I was with in 1990. He was about 25 years old, and had
learned the basics of the Cobol programming language at a previous job. I, as a Cobol expert, helped him learn some
of the fine points of the language, good logic, and systems analysis.
Elliot was very smart and a quick study. He soon became a rising star in the company. He learned a data base language,
Integrated Data Management System (IDMS) we used for data storage and access.
He was a pal with a girl about his age, and everyone assumed that they were an item. The truth is that both he and she
were gay, and were just friends. They had not "come out" at that time for fear of losing their jobs. I didn’t find out
that they were gay until years later when a mutual friend told me.
Elliot was brought up in a poor family in eastern Iowa. His father was a drunkard. One night when Elliot was a teenager,
he rode in a car driven by his older brother. They had a terrible accident, and his brother was killed. Elliot’s father
blamed Elliot for the accident, and his blame was relentless, forcing Elliot to leave home and go out on his own at a
young age.
He got a job as a waiter where he met others with his same orientation. Around that time he began weight training and
developed a very muscular body. He was hired as a Chippendale and danced at clubs frequented by women. He made good
money, much of it from tips stuffed into his pants by female clients of the club. However, women were continually
begging him to go to bed with them, a concept that he loathed. He eventually quit that job, even though his income
was incredible.
Elliot was unhappy because of his orientation, and he sought help. A counselor suggested that he could get religion
and that would cause him to "go straight," so Elliot began taking religion classes. While taking the classes he was
paired with a girl, was told that they made a good couple, and that to help him go straight, they should marry. Elliot
agreed to marry this girl, hoping that it would solve his "problem." On their wedding night, Elliot found that his new
wife was gay and wouldn’t have anything to do with him. Their marriage was never consummated and they had an annulment
shortly after. Elliot dropped out of the religious program, very discouraged.
During his religious classes, Elliot had acquired a significant volume of information about religion, and he felt the
whole concept of religion was a hoax perpetrated on people with a weak self-image, and promoted by church "elders" who
derived power and money from their flock. Whenever someone would approach Elliot about joining a church, he was able
to quote scripture and show the missionary how stupid, contradictory, and self-serving the Bible and religion
were.
Elliot worked for several companies, and always became a star in the field of data processing. He was highly
appreciated and well-paid for his work. He worked for a company back east for a few years, then worked in Phoenix,
and finally, returned to Colorado where his parents had moved. By this time, they lived in a broken down trailer in
a farming area north of Denver. Their sole source of income was social security, and his father still drank. Elliot
had a sister, and the two of them checked on his mother and father from time to time, but Elliot’s relationship with
his father continued to be strained.
A friend of mine happened to interview for a computer position at the same company where Elliot worked, and he was the
hiring manager. He hired her. From time to time she would walk by Elliot’s cubicle and see him surfing the web, looking
at gay sites. Apparently, he was seeking a partner.
Elliot decided that he wanted kids, so he arranged to have a lady in Ohio be a surrogate mother. He made a sperm deposit
which was placed into her, and nine months later, she bore a daughter. The cost to Elliot was about $30,000, but he
could afford it on his ample salary.
He brought his daughter back to Colorado to live with him. He was a loving and caring father, and he took very good
care of her. A year later, he decided that he didn’t want his daughter to be an only child, so he again arranged for
the same Ohio woman to carry another child. This time the surrogate mother had twins, a girl and a boy. Elliot adopted
both of them.
The male twin had some sort of encephalitic condition which caused his eyes to bulge, resulting in his having several
operations to control the problem. Evidence of any mental degradation would have to be determined when the child was
older.
Around the time that he acquired his second and third children, he found a man in Pennsylvania who was also looking for
a partner. The Pennsylvanian moved to Denver and became part of the family. Elliot’s partner loved his kids and took
care of them while Elliot was at work. The partner worked from time to time singing in local establishments.
The new partner and Elliot’s kids bonded, and Elliot considered allowing the partner to adopt them so that he and Elliot
would have an equal legal relationship with the children.
About six years after Elliot and his partner got together, the partner left and never returned. We don’t know the
details, but it was a breakup. Elliot was thankful that he had not carried out his one-time plan to allow his partner
to adopt the kids.
At the time of this writing, as far as is known, Elliot is raising his three kids without a partner and providing his
three kids with a loving, caring family atmosphere.